Long Pauses
Hi,
I haven’t written in a while, but maybe I have never
stopped.
I have been thinking a lot lately, about the construct of
who I am as a person and all what makes me, you know, me.
Funny I know
since I spent most of the past 10 years figuring that out, without a clear
conclusion. Mostly a blurred-out line that started to plateau after a certain
age. Was it 22? My first heartbreak, me realizing how all heartbreaks are
similar and stem out of denial of what you thought would be yours?
Was it 24? With me breaking every taboo I know to feel more?
To love harder? To experience my existence with a greater depth?
Was it 25? With me opening up my mind to see what’s really
there?
26? 27? 28? 29?
Getting wasted?
Falling in love again and again?
Kissing under the rain?
Opening up my body in an attempt to detach from a physical
being only to confine myself even more?
Baggage.
Emotional baggage. Long dark alleyways filled with dust,
blood and almost forgotten people, but not quite.
You’d think after a certain age that, too, plateaus and you
stop filling your alleyways. But that’s not true.
The rooms are overflooding with mess and despair and I was
never one for cleaning up.
Cleaning up my traumas.
Cleaning up my broken heart and the rest of the broken
hearts left in there.
How hard is it to look for something in a crowded room? How
hard it is to see despite the noise? To feel with your heart bleeding out for
love and contracting against a stiff muscle?
Hold me.
Look at me like you always have, like you’re seeing me for the
first time. Like you’re reading me from a smile.
And for the first time, I am looked at for beyond skin.
I am standing here half foot in, the other halves shivering
in the cold. You got me wrong, what I was trying to say that I’ll eventually
disappoint myself.
Sex and other things;
Hmm tricky topic?
Dare I speak?
Dare I have an opinion?
Dare I be anything but an object groomed my entire life for
one thing, without a right to experience it for my own desire?
Excuse me, I was not groomed for it, I was groomed to receive
it. Silently, obediently and acceptingly.
What shames a man really? When he is given all right to be
whatever, to feel whatever, to do whatever.
But I, a little woman, I can’t be without feeling faded,
used, contaminated.
Stained forever with a scarlet letter burned against my
back, or ass at this point it doesn’t really matter.
My first time was heavy, like I wasn’t even there, was I? It
felt like yes finally mission accomplished I am done.
Stuck here forever.
No turning back.
To be touched by a man who’s not trembling with insecurities
in front of who you are.
Damn it!
Not again!
You’re supposed to burn me up not make me pity you, again!
I don’t bite, in here I am just skin colliding onto yours,
treat me as such.
Don’t love me, make me scream your name.
What good are men unable to give what I’ve been groomed to receive?
Congratulations, you’ve manage to twist every love anyone
tried to give you into somewhere under your pillow.
Why?
Scared of feeling or too proud to really give?
Or this is just normal and people are too stupid to admit?
Why does it always come down to this? You claim to your
liberalism only to value your greatest worth on the best head you’ve given.
Is this your fear of a real connection, what remains of the
chains of oppression, or a distorted idea to where your freedom really lays?
After years and years of all the whatevers, I guess I finally
got it.
There is no depth to feelings, it is either there or it isn’t.
My total physical freedom is not about how much detached “just
sex” I have, because I am a hedonistic strong woman who acknowledges desire. It
isn’t about the 16 tattoos I have, piercings, tanned skin, short hair and all
the rest that doesn’t fit the ideal feminine physicality.
My total physical freedom is not about how dismissive and “chill”
I am to men who are too immature and careless to be responsible for their
feelings -and mine-. And how uncaringly I let them invade my body.
My total physical freedom is me saying no. I want what I
want because I fully want it. Because I control my being and I am not to allow any
disruptive energy around me. To give love and receive love without shaming
myself out of it.
Because even as a strong woman I am still a girl who wants
to be loved and cuddled, and my absolute freedom is my ability to admit to
that.
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